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So I really do not post or actually read a lot of these, too busy with work and I manage my time to see select providers that meet with certain things that i like and do not like just as we all do. But just curious here and i will give a scenario. So i responded to an ad by a somewhat reviewed provider (no names) who was intriguing to me and we established a time and she did some screening. She was from out of the state visiting. Appointment time came up and i arrived 20 minutes early but did not call until 10 prior to obtain room number............no response for 15 minutes. Called/texted again and received the information after another 5-10 minutes. Entered room and she was easily better than her pictures but came to the door in sweatpants and a hoodie and said hold on. Went into bathroom and stayed for 10 minutes [snip]. Once outside of the bathroom remained in sweatpants , no greeting other than hello and we honestly did nothing at all other than she talked for what she considered to be the rest of the 35 minutes on the schedule time. I was still polite and asked if I made her nervous for some reason and that i could go (tell you about me in a minute). She stated that she [snip] felt tired but actually asked if i could pay her (will continue at end). I am a large guy around 6'4" 250, i am a former Marine, a combat vet with multiple tours, scars from wounds (but not horrible) I have eyes that have been called both kind and warming by some providers to piercing and always watching from others (use to call that the thousand yard stare in the military some have it others don't). But I am very respectful and polite, not a big talker until comfortable but always a sheepdog personality and make sure that the provider or anyone around me is protected in a sense. i am just as much about the provider having fun as myself. I actually have developed a good contact relationship with some of the providers just do to being considerate and kind to them. Anyway, I did in fact leave the full donation with her even though in a general sense or in another scenario or business would have just told a business or service to suck it up and too bad. i left she texted later and i told her i was disappointed with the whole thing and then there was no further contact from her. Until recently after 5 months and she for some reason kept my number and said she would be back in town. I went over the whole scenario with her to see if she remembered, she did. Made a HUGE point of the disclaimer for time only to which i responded that I would love to have reconnected but was hesitant due to our last meeting..................Now I am the bad guy, literally got upset with me because i declined even though I said it very politely with her. She even mentioned that she saw that I reviewed honestly but respectfully and seemed I to be popular with some of the ones that I have seen. Kept saying for me to give her another chance. Is this a case in which I should, should i ask for some manner of extended time (other favorites have done this when they had to cancel or something when schedule overlapped my time, as i never ask for it they offered) or just bag it and say not a chance sweetie or do you think she should have offered something? Would have loved to try again but could not get my mind around the last visit which was beyond a waste of time. Just want some input here